Whether you are the groom, best man or father of the bride, writing a wedding speech can be a daunting task. There’s no need to be nervous though, the whole process can be a lot easier than you think and it can be a very enjoyable and rewarding experience! These handy tips should point you in the right direction.
Start out by making notes as early on as possible – ideally at least 6 months before the wedding. You might be struggling to come up with material, but if you note it down over time you will be amazed how much will come to you from memory. Think about funny stories, events, quirks and qualities that the bride and groom have. Once you have enough material, try to finish the speech at least a month before the big day. This will give you one less thing to think about coming up to the big day.
Try to open with a funny line. Not only will it set you off to a good start but it will be a great confidence booster if you are nervous.
The Internet is a great resource – search for wedding speech material to give you an idea of what others have written for their speeches. Whatever you do, don’t just copy jokes and stories off people though. Many people go to several weddings a year and are guaranteed to have heard those one liners before!
Don’t try and wing it the night (or week) before, people will know that you haven’t put the effort in. They will really appreciate and admire you for any effort that you do put in.
Be funny! People are there to have a good time, so it doesn’t need to be completely formal.
As nervous as you may be, there really is no need to be. Everyone in the room is on your side and wants to see you succeed.
Remember Nan will be watching, along with Auntie Ethel, so keep it clean! You will need to judge the material you are using to make sure its appropriate for your entire audience.
People like to hear stories about the happy couple so try and relate what your saying to the bride and groom as much as possible.
Remember, weddings are expensive! Someone will be paying or at least contributing a lot of money to the event, so unless its you be as gracious as possible and give a big big thank you.
It’s the biggest day of the bride’s life so be sure to make a point of how lovely she looks. Don’t miss out the bridesmaids either!
Its not all laughs and giggles – make sure at least some of the material is genuine and say some positive notes about the the happy couple.
The speech doesn’t have to be that long. People will get bored if you carry on for too long, so a few minutes should suffice.
There’s nothing wrong with reading the speech from paper, just make sure that you look up and make eye contact with your audience rather than having your head permanently buried in the paper.